By Don Freedman


Some people seem to have a special something that attracts others in droves - yet it's not obvious exactly what it is.

Maybe you've even had a few friends with this almost magical X factor.

What exactly is it? What's it called?

It's called charisma.

Have you ever wondered: is charisma some innate quality you're born with or is it something you can develop?

Most people think it is an innate quality.

But I'm a firm believer that it's something you can develop.

Here are two attributes of the charismatic person. (With a little work, you can develop them as well.)

1) Being More Mysterious:

There are two sides to this.

The first is manifesting attributes about yourself that are at odds with each other.

An example of a charismatic political leader with contradictory personality traits is Peter the Great. He was both cruel and kind.

When you have contradictory personality traits people cannot categorize you.

A woman may become angry or frustrated that she cannot figure you out. However, this will spellbound her.

The second part is being uncanny.

When people think you have supernatural powers they see you as charismatic.

This is why cult leaders and some political stewards (in some parts of the world) are perceived by others as possessing charisma.

2) Inspiring Others To Be Better Than They Are:

If you can goad a person into seeing themselves as better than they currently are, they will see you as charismatic. If you can spur them to take action on this realization, they'll see you as a super charismatic person.

John F. Kennedy was a master at this.

He spellbound America when he said, "It's not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country."

He made us think we could be better people then we were.

Here's your homework:

1) Think of a couple of your attributes that are at odds with with one another. Instead of hiding them, hone them and let them shine in their full glory.

2) Whenever a friend is feeling down think of how you can make them see themselves in a better light.




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